16 Oct

Energy – A Special Gift – Victoria M. Parham – Motivational Life Coach

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Energy – A Special Gift

Often times, we could all use a little burst of energy every now and then.  Right now, for instance, as I sit with a blanket over my shoulders, sipping lemon tea and hoping that the next coughing spasm is not as ferocious as the last two, I could use a gift of energy.  The tickle that started in my nose and chest a few days ago has blossomed into a full-blown, body-wracking cold, complete with chills and fever.

The martial art Aikido (The Way of Harmony) teaches us to see everything that comes our way as vitality to be danced with. By centering and extending our ki (strength) we connect and blend with the energy of attack, making it a part of us.  We redirect it from center, keeping ourselves and our attacker safe from harm. energy

How this elegant metaphor applies to situations in our personal and professional lives is a continuing source of study and fascination for me.  My workshops use physical exercises which help our bodies remember how to do things like center, extend, acknowledge and blend.  We begin to dance, flow and move with the energy of conflict instead of blocking it.

So I sit, wondering how I can dance with this attack. Even centering doesn’t stop the incessant coughing.  I have no ki to extend (it seems to have retreated to the innermost recesses of my system).  The only thing I can think to do is to acknowledge and embrace.

But that, at least, is a beginning. In years past, I would not acknowledge being sick.  When I was sick, I’d often go to work anyway.  I plowed through what needed doing with half a spirit and wore myself out.  We can not acknowledge what we can’t embrace.  By this I mean make it a part of me, connect with it so that I can begin to look for solutions.

If we acknowledge most of our conflicts, internal or external, they would resolve themselves. But because we see them as negative, we immediately resist by fighting or fleeing.  If I can see what comes my way as energy, with no positive or negative charge other than what I give it, I can be more curious about it.  As unwanted as it may be, there’s definitely more power in dancing with it than in resisting it.

I may not always know what the energy offers, but when I can ask the question “Where’s the gift?” I’ve taken a step in a new direction.


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Andrea Parham

Andrea Parham

Personal Assistant to Victoria M. Parham at VictoriaParham.com
B.S. Criminal Justice, Old Dominion University
A.A.S in General Studies - SVCC
Member of NPHC-Zeta Phi Beta Incorporated
Andrea Parham
Andrea Parham
B.S. Criminal Justice, Old Dominion University A.A.S in General Studies - SVCC Member of NPHC-Zeta Phi Beta Incorporated